David Adefeso has introduced his girlfriend Tamar Braxton to his Nigerian family, and he gave them a warning that they had to accept her if they didn’t want to lose him. The couple was joined by her young son Logan as they hosted their first-ever Thanksgiving dinner as a family.
“I informed my family early on that they didn’t have a choice! They either love Tamar the way they love me and accept her the way I accept her….or they risk losing me completely,” so the Nigerian businessman revealed in a recent Instagram post.
David gave his family such ultimatum because he didn’t want to end up like many African American families where the African parents got “too overly involved in their children’s relationships and married lives, often to the detriment of the young couple’s relationship.”
“(heck, I’ve seen some of my friends’ moms move into the couple’s home right after they got married, which so often makes life miserable for the daughter-in-law). I vowed that I would never put Tamar through the misery I’ve seen other couples go through with the man’s family.”
Fortunately, things went well. “My mom treats Tamar like her 4th daughter (I have 3 sisters) and Beans like her 13th grandchild, my sisters cherish her the way they do each other, and my brothers adore my @tamarbraxton almost as much as I do,” so he claimed.
“It always amazes me to see how Tamar and my family took to each other from the moment they met back in Nigeria,” he said. “They love her and she loves them right back. During dessert my mom stood up to speak and she called Tamar her daughter. I wasn’t surprised: my family took to Tamar’s gorgeous simile, deep kindness and infectious sense of humor almost as strongly as she took to my family’s deeply Christian, conservative, African roots.”